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Loneliness, when the word loneliness comes up what do most people think? Loneliness is it a positive or negative factor in peoples life? Does it differ for different kinds of people? What does loneliness feel like? Things that seem self explanatory, are not always as clear cut as they seem. I believe loneliness has a lot to do with the psyche of the person involved.

What is loneliness to me? To me loneliness is an absence of something meaningful in your life. When I am lonely I feel depressed.There is always a cause that leads to the effect of loneliness. When my friends from high school and I went our separate ways after we graduated I felt lonely, I don't know when the next time I'll be able to see them is. It could be a week, a month, or even more; the close friendship, the bond we shared keeps getting thinner and thinner and eventually will it break? Will my loneliness grow, the emptiness I feel when I think about them? My friends mean a lot to me. Sometimes I think my friendships are what keep me sane.

I feel like even though I can still text my friends the dark black nothingness that sets inside my heart, just isn't satisfied with the short five or ten word conversations we hold when we text. I have already managed to completely lose one friend; we got into an argument and since we no longer see each other on a daily basis we haven't reconciled. Does she feel the loneliness too? Is the loneliness I'm feeling a figment of my imagination? Is it just me craving something I used to have but was taken away from me? I don't really know anymore.

I know that since I've started college, one of my closest friends quit talking to me, I don't think she hates me. We used to see each other all the time, I can't help but wonder if she is lonely. Is she still talking to other friends? Does having a child help fill the void in her heart, does she even have a void in her heart? Questions I could have asked before because of how closely the bonds between us kept us together. Now that the bonds have begun to shrivel is it no longer any of my concern? I can't help but feel that my mind, body, and soul are aching because of my belief that all my friends will leave forever and I will be lonely. To curve the thoughts that negatively effect my psyche I think about positive things, like how I have made new friends after starting college. Lindsay is nice we have a lot in common and I believe by just being friends with her it help fill that emptiness in me even if it's just by a little bit. But, can loneliness transcend psychologically effecting us to physically effecting us?

I remember watching a video for my sociology class called "Growing Up Online" and in this video they told a story of a boy who committed suicide. The boy had committed suicide because he was being bullied at school and even when he got home and logged onto his computer. I can't help but wonder in these kinds of situations what the person was thinking? Could I even comprehend what he was thinking without being in the same situation? Could he have been feeling lonely? Fighting alone at school then coming home and fight alone on the Internet. Did he ever think of trying to find someone to talk to a parent a teacher someone who could love him and help him. Was he so lonely and confused that he saw suicide the only way out? In the video it showed us a conversation with another boy, and the boy urged him on, giving him ideas of how to end it. If he had more friends, would he still have felt this way? I think it may have changed things, but do other people think the same way? Was this child a fluke accident? Does having friends and not feeling lonely reduce the thought of suicide as a way out?

Is loneliness a disease? Can loneliness be contagious? Understanding loneliness I think is impossible. Loneliness changes depending on the person looking at it. What I think loneliness is could very easily be different from what my friends, my colleagues, my bosses, and my family think. Who's right, when you subjectively guess as to what the term 'loneliness' is who is right? I don't think that anyone is right nor will we ever know what exactly loneliness is and how it can effect us. How it effects us changes, it changes all the time so how will we know the loneliness we're feeling is the same as the loneliness someone else is feeling. How can we prevent it? Is it preventable at all? Besides being there for them, encouraging someone, or even taking them to a shrink to sort out their problems, is there anything we can do in our everyday life to help cure the plague we know as 'loneliness'?

Is loneliness something to worry about? Is it important? Why do other people think being lonely is so bad? Do we stand up and try and fight the war on the feeling of being lonely? These are just a few in a great amount of numbers of questions that could be asked when loneliness is a topic. Deciding your own opinion is important, being involved in peoples life. Even if you yourself have a piece missing in your hear, doesn't mean that it is impossible for you to be the piece that fits into someone else's heart.